The way we eat, exercise and interact with technology every day as a lifestyle is doing ourselves a disservice. The things that define us are not habits. They are aspects of who we are.
Having concerns about the future
Worriers know how much stress and anxiety they add to their lives. Probably you’ve also noticed that worrying about bad things doesn’t make them happen. Basically, worrying is a side effect with no cure. Then why?
Despite knowing it stresses us out and makes us anxious, why do we worry? We worry because it makes us feel in control. Imagine the worst-case scenario about something you can’t control. You’re helpless. So you worry. Because worrying relieves helplessness (temporarily) even though it causes anxiety. Most people would instead feel anxious and stressed than vulnerable.
Unlike any addiction, though, worry does not really bring long-term benefits. You temporarily feel in control when you think about how you could handle all sorts of terrible things, but the stress and anxiety eventually catch up. The number of things you worry about increases when you are chronically stressed and anxious.
If you’re constantly stressed and anxious, it’s hard to be happy. Worrying chronically robs us of our lives. You need to accept the feeling of helplessness and uncertainty if you want to end the cycle of stress and regain control of your life. Many bad things can’t be controlled. It is better to accept this than live in denial.
Night-time technology use.
Blue light exposure at night has been discussed at length. We can lose sleep, which impacts our mental health downstream. It’s a valid topic of concern. How technology and the information it offers are stimulating and keeping us from snoozing deeper has not been discussed as much. The issue deserves more attention.”
We have access to a lot of information at our fingertips, which is wonderful and empowering, but it can also disrupt our mental and emotional health. Those who scroll up until bedtime may be able to keep their brains [wired] due to the information they are looking at.
Mental health definition: Looking for reassurance
The instant feeling of reassurance feels good, but it is detrimental in the long run. Anxiety is a normal human emotion. Obviously, feeling anxious is uncomfortable or even painful. Therefore, what is more, natural than the desire to eliminate that pain and discomfort? There was nothing.
That’s why so many people seek reassurance:
Having had a tense social encounter, you send a text to a friend – hoping for some words of comfort. You call up your partner as soon as you sense that strange feeling in your stomach, hoping to alleviate your fears with their soothing words.
Reassurance isn’t inherently wrong. When we’re afraid, we naturally want and need support and comfort from others.
When reassurance becomes routine, it becomes problematic. You are self-sabotaging when you rely solely on another person for comfort when you experience fear or insecurity.
Letting other people handle your anxiety for you.
The problem here is twofold:
- Suppose you can’t manage your anxieties on your own. In that case, you become a victim of stress, and
- Your most meaningful relationships become toxic due to unhealthy social dependencies, leading to resentment and conflict.
Do not rely on others to ease your anxiety, but learn to manage it well yourself. Instead of distracting yourself from stress or uncertainty, learn to tolerate them. Rather than trying to eradicate your feelings of helplessness, sit with them.
Rather than waiting until other people make you feel better, embrace your fears and insecurities and move on with your life.
Mental health stress: Lack of physical activity.
Humans are designed to move emotions through movement, and when you don’t move and just sit 11 hours a day on average, you store emotions. And those “stuck” emotions can lead to physical and mental problems.
Even though you might not recognize the emotions, the brain perceives a threat or something emotionally challenging. When you process your feelings, feel them, and experience them through movement, they won’t affect your other parts of life.
Getting drunk at night.
Does alcohol simply make you feel better, or is it to make you feel even better? “If alcohol is your way to deal with life, you might be using it in a hard way, so that’s always a gut check.
I’m thinking about how drinking affects your sleep. It’s well known that getting enough sleep affects your mental well-being. At the end of the day, it’s common to have a glass of wine to wind down. However, this concept is quite contradictory. Alcohol keeps your body from reaching the low resting heart rate and low temperature necessary for deep sleep at night. As a result, your sleep quality is much poorer.”
To that end, limit your drinking to three nights per week, and on the days you do pour yourself a drink, try to do it earlier in the night if you can. “It’s not the time for that glass of wine at ten p.m. It’s 6 p.m., so you have time to digest it.”
Taking two weeks off for an experiment would be helpful if you aren’t sure whether your drinking habits affect your emotional health. Drink nothing for 14 days and note how you feel. It gives you an objective view of how that change affects you.
Make sure these habits don’t thwart your progress when looking for ways to support your mental well-being. Their effects on your emotions may seem simple, but they can be pretty profound over time.
Harvard Mental Health Articlehttps://www.health.harvard.edu/topics/mental-health